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To the One Who Feels Trapped and Left with Nothing You Are Not Alone

 To the One Who Feels Trapped and Left with Nothing You Are Not Alone



I know what it feels like to be discarded like you never mattered. To give everything your love, your loyalty, your soulbonly to be thrown away like you were nothing. I know what it feels like to watch the person who once swore they loved you turn cold, heartless, as if you were just a phase they grew tired of. It feels like dying while you're still breathing.


And if you're still in it if you’re stuck, walking on eggshells, playing a role just to survive I know that pain too. The way you have to be careful with every word, every breath, because one wrong move could set them off. How you have to hide your real thoughts, your real plans, because if they knew you wanted out, they'd make you pay for it. How you feel like you’re in a prison with invisible walls, and no one on the outside can see that you’re trapped.


But listen to me you can get out. You have to get out.


It doesn’t matter if you lose your house. It doesn’t matter if you lose your job. It doesn’t matter if you have to pack a bag and disappear in the night, move states away, start over from nothing. Nothing is better than being trapped in their world. Nothing is better than waking up every day suffocating under their control, their cruelty, their mind games that keep you doubting your own reality.


I know what’s holding you back. The fear of the unknown. The thought of leaving behind everything you’ve built. The voice in your head whispering, “But what if it gets worse?” But what if it gets better? What if this is the beginning of your freedom? What if the life you were meant to live is waiting for you on the other side of this?


I know the thought of leaving feels impossible. I know they’ve made you believe you’re nothing without them, that no one else will want you, that you’ll never make it alone. But they are lying. They’ve always been lying. You were never the weak one they just needed you to believe that so you wouldn’t walk away.


So do what you have to do. Plan in secrecy. Save what you can, but don’t wait until it’s “the right time” because there will never be a perfect time. Just go. Run. There is no shame in disappearing to save yourself. There is no shame in choosing survival over comfort, in choosing peace over the chaos they keep you trapped in.


And if you’ve already been discarded if they left you shattered, emptied, feeling like a ghost of the person you used to be please hear me: You are still here. And that means you can rebuild. It doesn’t matter what you’ve lost. It doesn’t matter how broken you feel. It doesn’t matter if they moved on like you never existed. You still exist. And that means you still have a chance at a life where you are safe, where you are free, where you are loved the way you were always meant to be.


I know it hurts. I know you’re exhausted. But there is a future beyond this, and I need you to stay long enough to see it.


You are not alone. You are not worthless. You are not broken beyond repair.


You are a survivor. You are powerful. You are free the moment you decide to be.


And I promise you, your life is worth saving.


With all my heart,

Daniel Ryan Cotler

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thank you

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