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The Woman Who Saved Me: Donielle Jolie Yanez and the Power of Healing Loudly

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To the One Who Feels Broken, Lost, and Invisible This Is for You

 


I know you’re exhausted. I know you’ve been screaming in silence, hoping someone anyone will see you, hear you, save you. You’ve given everything. You’ve loved with every ounce of your soul. And yet, here you are, shattered, discarded, questioning whether you were ever worthy of love in the first place.


Let me tell you something that I wish someone had told me when I was drowning in that same darkness: This is not your fault.


You were not too much. You were not too needy, too sensitive, or too difficult to love. You were not unworthy. The way they treated you the gaslighting, the manipulation, the endless cycles of cruelty and false hope was never about you. It was about control. It was about power. It was about keeping you in a world where they were the sun, and you were only allowed to exist in their shadow.


I know that voice in your head the one that whispers you’re nothing without them, that no one will believe you, that you’ll never be free. But that voice? That’s not your voice. That’s them. That’s the conditioning of a master manipulator who built a cage around your mind and convinced you it was your home.


But here’s what they don’t want you to know: You are already free.


They don’t own you. They never did. Their approval was never the measure of your worth. You existed before them, and you will exist long after they’re gone. You are still here, still breathing, still holding on despite every storm they’ve thrown your way. That is strength. That is power. That is proof that you are not weak you are a survivor.


Right now, I know the pain feels unbearable. I know the weight of it is crushing, and the idea of another day feels impossible. But I promise you, there is a future beyond this moment. There is a life waiting for you that is filled with light, love, and people who will cherish you for exactly who you are. There is healing. There is peace.


I know because I was where you are. I was drowning in the same abyss, convinced I was nothing, convinced I had no way out. But I was wrong. And if I had given in, if I had let that darkness take me, I would have never known the life that was waiting for me beyond the pain. I would have never known what it feels like to wake up without fear, to laugh without guilt, to love without walking on eggshells.


You are not alone. I see you. I believe you. I am fighting for you. And if you are reading this, please, stay. Stay one more minute. One more hour. One more day. Stay until you can see what I see in youa survivor, a warrior, a soul that was never meant to be dimmed by someone else's cruelty.


You are enough. You always were. And you always will be.


With all the love in my heart,

Daniel Ryan Cotler

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