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Narcissists find and attract new victims quickly because they’ve honed the ability to identify and exploit vulnerabilities.

 Narcissists find and attract new victims quickly because they’ve honed the ability to identify and exploit vulnerabilities.


They are highly skilled at reading people, spotting those who may be empathetic, insecure, or craving validation. These traits make someone more likely to fall for the narcissist’s charm and manipulation.


Their initial approach is often highly calculated. They use charisma, flattery, and attentiveness to create an intoxicating connection, often mirroring their target’s personality or interests. This creates the illusion of a perfect bond and disarms the potential victim. Narcissists are adept at love-bombing, showering the person with excessive attention, gifts, or affection to foster dependence.


Social media, dating apps, and shared social circles also allow narcissists to cast a wide net, giving them quick access to potential targets. They often keep backup sources of supply individuals they’ve been grooming on the side or maintaining as "friends" so they can seamlessly transition to a new victim.


Once the new target is hooked, the narcissist begins to subtly test boundaries and establish control, starting the cycle of manipulation and abuse all over again. Their ability to move on so quickly is fueled by their lack of genuine emotional attachment; they don’t grieve lost relationships the way others do, allowing them to focus entirely on securing their next source of supply.



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