To my beautiful community,

As the possibility of a TikTok ban looms, I feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude for everything we've built together. I want to take a moment to thank each and every one of you from the bottom of my heart for the unwavering love, support, and belief you’ve shown me. You have been my light in the darkest times, and without you, I truly don’t know if I’d still be standing.

Together, we’ve done things I never thought possible. We gave a voice to the voiceless, and in doing so, we made an impact that has reached far beyond what I ever imagined. Through your support, I’ve been able to share my story of surviving narcissistic abuse, and in turn, help thousands of others reclaim their power. Through the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Community blog, we’ve touched millions of lives, bringing people together and helping them heal.

We’ve turned my pain into something bigger than any one person Heal Loudly became a movement that reached over 100 million people, a rallying cry to encourage others to step out of the shadows and find their voice.

Together, we’ve achieved incredible things. My books, My Heartbreak Diary: My Journey Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Voiceless: The Silent Epidemic of Suicide Due to Narcissistic Abuse, became bestsellers, touching lives in ways I couldn’t have imagined. Through those pages, we were able to share our stories, our struggles, and our victories. Each success has been a testament to the strength of this community because of you, we’ve reached people who were suffering in silence, giving them the courage to speak out and heal.

You stood by me when I faced the toughest battles, including my criminal trial. When it felt like the world was against me, you were the ones who reminded me I wasn’t alone. You helped me fight back, expose my abuser, and reclaim my life.

But this isn’t just about me. This is about all of us. Together, we’ve created a community where no one has to suffer in silence. A community where survivors find strength in each other, where healing is loud, and where we grow stronger with every step we take.

I don’t know what the future holds with the looming TikTok ban, but one thing is certain: we’re not going anywhere. I’ll continue my work on other platforms, and I will continue to fight for a world where narcissistic abuse is not just understood but illegal. A world where survivors are supported, where first responders are trained to recognize the signs, and where no one ever feels like they have to end their life because of the darkness of narcissistic abuse.

Thank you. Thank you for believing in me. Thank you for being part of something truly powerful. The movement we’ve built together has already changed livesand this is just the beginning.

I’ll see you all on the other side, wherever our journey leads us.

With all my heart,

Daniel Ryan Cotler

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