You were never supposed to figure out the narcissist. They did not plan on you seeing through their lies, their manipulation, or their mask.

They wanted you to stay in the dark, to question yourself, to feel crazy. They needed you to believe their twisted version of reality, to doubt your own mind, to feel like you were losing touch with what was real. They counted on you being confused, on you second-guessing everything, on you doubting your own perception. They wanted you to stay trapped in the fog, caught in a never-ending cycle of self-doubt, unable to see the truth for what it was.

But guess what? You did figure it out. You started seeing the cracks in the facade, hearing the lies beneath the sweet words, feeling the manipulation hiding behind the smiles. And that right there? That’s when their control starts to slip away. You took back your power, and that’s when the game changed.

The moment you stop playing along with their lies, the moment you start seeing them for who they really are, their power over you begins to crumble. They were never supposed to lose their hold on you. You were meant to be their supply, their target, someone they could manipulate and control forever.

But you're not just a pawn. You are waking up. You’re reclaiming your truth. You’re becoming stronger, and that terrifies them. Because they didn’t plan on you becoming more self-aware, more empowered. They never saw you taking back your life.

And that’s exactly why they can’t stand it. Once you see through them, once you understand who they really are, they lose their grip. They can’t control you anymore. You’re no longer their victim

Comments

Toxic traits of covert narcissists

Welcome to the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Community Blog and Podcast. Today, we delve into a critical topic that affects many people: the toxic behaviors of covert narcissists. Covert narcissists are often more challenging to identify than their overt counterparts because they hide their narcissism behind a façade of concern and care. This concealment makes their toxic behaviors particularly insidious. Understanding these behaviors is essential for recognizing and protecting yourself from their harmful effects. The first toxic behavior of covert narcissists is hiding and concealing their true identity. They present themselves as caring and concerned individuals, but this is merely a manipulation tactic. Their apparent concern often feels phony or forced. Many targets of narcissists are empaths, who can detect this lack of genuineness through gut instincts and intuition. If you feel that something about their concern is off, it’s likely because it is. Recognizing this false concer...

Why do narcissist’s discard their partners

Narcissists discard their partners cruelly due to several psychological factors rooted in their personality disorder. Understanding these factors can shed light on their behavior and provide some clarity for those who have experienced such treatment. Lack of empathy is one of the defining traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Narcissists often struggle to understand or care about the feelings of others. This makes it easy for them to discard partners without considering the emotional pain they cause. Objectification of partners is another common behavior. Narcissists typically view their partners not as individuals with their own needs and emotions but as objects that serve a purpose. When a partner no longer fulfills the narcissist’s needs—whether it be admiration, validation, or control—they are seen as disposable. Narcissists have a strong need for control. Discarding a partner cruelly can be a way for the narcissist to assert dominance and control. By leaving in a hars...

The concept of the false self is central in understanding NPD

The concept of the false self is central to understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Narcissists create a persona that projects an image of perfection, superiority, and invulnerability. This false self is a carefully constructed facade designed to hide their deep-seated insecurities and vulnerabilities. By examining why narcissists develop this false self and its implications, we can better understand their behavior and the challenges in dealing with them. At the core of NPD lies a profound sense of inadequacy and unworthiness. From an early age, many narcissists experience emotional neglect, criticism, or unrealistic expectations from caregivers. These experiences can create an inner void, leading to a fragile self-esteem that is highly sensitive to any form of criticism or failure. To cope with these feelings, narcissists develop a false self that presents an idealized version of who they wish to be. The false self is characterized by grandiosity, entitlement, and...

Danie Ryan Cotler's Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Community Blog

Search This Blog