You will never obtain the truth from a narcissist

. The closest you might get is a narrative that portrays them as either a victim or a hero, but never as the villain. Their words are a carefully spun web of deceit, crafted to manipulate and control rather than to reveal genuine truth.

In their warped reality, they are always the central figure, the protagonist, and never the antagonist. They will weave elaborate stories of martyrdom, self-sacrifice, and triumph over adversity while conveniently omitting their own misdeeds. Their narrative is fluid and ever-changing, molded to fit their needs and desires at any given moment. They will deny, distort, and fabricate information with unwavering confidence and a disarming smile.

For narcissists, truth is a luxury they cannot afford, a vulnerability too risky to embrace. Instead, they construct their own version of reality—a fantastical world where they are perpetually right, always justified, and forever innocent. In this constructed reality, you are merely a supporting character, a pawn to be used and discarded as they see fit. Your perceptions will be distorted, and your sense of reality manipulated until you begin to question your own sanity.

Instead of wasting your time searching for truth from a narcissist, focus on uncovering concrete evidence and verifying the facts. Trust your own instincts and observations. Ultimately, the truth will emerge on its own, and the narcissist's carefully constructed façade will crumble. Their house of cards will collapse, revealing the reality they tried so hard to conceal.

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