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You cannot inflict harm on someone and then dictate how they should feel about it.

 You cannot inflict harm on someone and then dictate how they should feel about it.


When you shatter their world, you forfeit any right to control their healing process. The audacity of those who believe they can regulate the fallout of their own destructive actions is truly staggering.


When you hurt someone, you relinquish any claim to govern their emotional response. You cannot demolish their sense of self and then dictate the extent of their pain or the pace of their recovery. Their devastation is a deeply personal experience, one that belongs to them alone to process and navigate.


The impact of your actions may have destroyed their trust, broken their heart, or shattered their faith, but it is not your place to control how they pick up the pieces. They have the right to determine their own path to healing—how they mourn, how they grieve, and how they rebuild their lives. You cannot prescribe the terms of their recovery or the depth of their sorrow.


Your role, if any, is to acknowledge the harm you've caused and to make amends if possible. It's essential to give them the space they need to heal without imposing your own expectations or timelines. By choosing to inflict pain, you have forfeited the privilege of determining how ruined they are allowed to feel. Their emotional journey is theirs alone, and it should be respected as such.

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