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The loveboming phase: triangulation tatics at play



The love-bombing phase in a narcissistic relationship often involves the narcissist presenting themselves as the victim of past abuse and trauma, portraying their ex-partners as the villains in the narrative. This manipulation tactic, known as triangulation, is aimed at creating a sense of empathy and loyalty in the new supply while demonizing previous partners. However, beneath the surface of these stories lies a complex web of manipulation and deceit.


Narcissists strategically use triangulation to manipulate and control their new supply by leveraging their empathy and compassion. They paint a picture of themselves as the innocent victim who has been wronged and mistreated by cruel and abusive ex-partners. They may exaggerate or fabricate stories of abuse, portraying themselves as helpless victims who deserve sympathy and support.


By eliciting empathy from the new supply, the narcissist creates a bond based on shared emotional experiences and a desire to protect and care for them. This emotional connection makes the new supply more susceptible to manipulation and less likely to question the narcissist's behavior or intentions.


Furthermore, the narcissist's portrayal of their ex-partners as "crazy," abusive, or unstable serves to discredit any potential criticism or doubts the new supply may have about the narcissist. By painting previous partners in a negative light, the narcissist undermines their credibility and casts doubt on any concerns raised by the new supply.


However, what the narcissist fails to disclose is their own role in the dynamics of past relationships. Behind the accusations of abuse and victimization lies a pattern of manipulation, exploitation, and emotional abuse perpetrated by the narcissist. The stories of abuse they share may contain elements of truth, but they are often distorted or exaggerated to evoke sympathy and manipulate the new supply's emotions.


This manipulation tactic is aimed at solidifying the new supply's loyalty and devotion to the narcissist while deflecting attention away from the narcissist's own abusive behavior. By positioning themselves as the victim, the narcissist elicits a sense of obligation and guilt in the new supply, making it harder for them to recognize the manipulation and break free from the cycle of abuse.


It's crucial for individuals in relationships with narcissists to remain vigilant and discerning, especially during the love-bombing phase. Recognizing triangulation tactics, questioning inconsistencies in the narcissist's stories, and seeking support from trusted sources can help protect against manipulation and abuse. Building strong boundaries and prioritizing self-care are essential steps in maintaining emotional well-being and breaking free from toxic relationships.

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