Triangulation: The Poisonous Web of Narcissistic Abuse

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In the dark world of narcissistic abuse, triangulation is a masterstroke of manipulation, a tactic that leaves victims entangled in a poisonous web of insecurity, jealousy, and confusion. In this blog post, we will shine a spotlight on triangulation, dissecting its components and unveiling its devastating effects.

Triangulation is a psychological manipulation technique where the narcissist creates an invisible triangle, pitting one person against another. This strategy serves multiple sinister purposes for the narcissist - it feeds their ego, maintains control, and keeps their victims in a perpetual state of emotional turmoil.

Imagine this scenario

You're in a relationship with someone you love and trust. Everything seems to be going well, but slowly, almost imperceptibly, a third party enters the picture. It could be an ex-partner, a coworker, or even a friend. The narcissist begins to sing the praises of this third party, comparing their qualities to yours.

At first, it's subtle compliments. "You know, Jane is such a great listener," they might say. Or, "John is always so supportive and understanding." These seemingly innocent comments sow the seeds of insecurity.

As time goes on, the narcissist's manipulative tactics intensify. They might exaggerate the importance of this third party, making you feel like you're in constant competition for their attention and affection. You find yourself questioning your worth, wondering if you measure up to this idealized figure the narcissist has created.

Jealousy becomes a constant companion. You're tormented by the thought that this third party is somehow a better fit for your partner than you are. You become consumed by comparison, your self-esteem eroding with every imagined flaw.

Triangulation takes a profound emotional toll. It creates a sense of instability and insecurity in the relationship. You begin to doubt your partner's loyalty and commitment. Anxiety and fear of abandonment become constant companions.

Even worse, it often drives a wedge between you and the third party, who may be oblivious to the narcissist's manipulations. Friendships are strained, and sometimes relationships are irreparably damaged, all in the name of the narcissist's ego and control.

Understanding triangulation is the first step to breaking free from its toxic grip. Recognize that this manipulation tactic is not a reflection of your worth but a calculated move by the narcissist to maintain control. Seek support from trusted friends, family, or a therapist who can provide a fresh perspective and help you navigate this complex emotional landscape.

By shedding light on the corrosive effects of triangulation in narcissistic abuse, we hope to empower survivors to recognize the tactics used against them and find a path to healing and recovery. You are not alone in this struggle, and there is a way out of the poisonous web of manipulation.

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