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Forgiving Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse

 


Forgiving yourself after experiencing narcissistic abuse can be a challenging process, but it is an important step towards healing and moving forward. Here are some steps that may help you in this process:


1. Acknowledge your feelings: It's important to allow yourself to feel and process the emotions that come with the experience of narcissistic abuse. This can help you to understand the impact it has had on you and help you to move forward.


2. Take responsibility: While you are not responsible for the abuse you have experienced, you can take responsibility for how you respond to it. This may involve taking steps to protect yourself from further abuse, seeking therapy or support, and learning to set healthier boundaries.


3. Seek forgiveness from yourself: It's important to be kind to yourself and realize that you were doing the best you could at the time. Try to forgive yourself for any mistakes or decisions you may have made during the abusive relationship.


4. Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness, concern, and understanding that you would give to a good friend who has experienced similar circumstances.


5. Focus on your strengths: Instead of dwelling on your perceived weaknesses or what you could have done differently, focus on your strengths and the positive qualities that got you through the experience. Reflect on how you have grown and what you have learned from the experience.


6. Get support: Seek support from a trusted friend or family member, a therapist, or a support group. Sharing your experience with others who understand and can offer validation and support can be incredibly healing.


Remember, forgiveness is a process and it takes time. Be patient with yourself and trust that with time and self-care, you can heal and move forward from the experience of narcissistic abuse.


You got this, stay strong, you're stronger then you know!

-Dan


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